Women are not the sex responsible for holding up progress

ball and chainA few days ago, Beyonce Knowles wrote an essay about gender equality being a myth and for men and women to come together and face reality. It really got me thinking about how men have become the ball and chain of our society.

Last week, I saw Alan Grayson (D-FL) on a talk show and he stated that, “For the past five years, there has been a conviction of a politician, whether on the local, state, or national level once a week.” I was stunned, but it got me thinking; if not for men, the country would not be in the shape it is in. Whether it be wars, the economy, the environment or with social issues.

I keep hearing awful statements about women by these “men” regarding reproduction choice, parenting, and welfare queens. These same men, who scandal after scandal, continue to get re-elected. These men are the real ball and chain of our society, they have stalled progress at every turn.

I’ve become sick and tired of the things I continue to hear, whether it’s politicians, men on televisions shows like Duck Dynasty, and men that I have had conversations with on social networking. I will leave my own personal experience with men out of this.

I could bring up statistic after statistic of domestic violence, abuse of power, sexual promiscuity, drug abuse while serving the public, blaming victims of rape to the point of letting perpetrators off Scott free from prosecution, stripping teachers – a mostly female profession – of their union rights, and the list goes on.

I don’t know what the solution is, but I want to bring this to the attention of progressive men who seem to understand this issue and understand the anger of women who are doing their darnedest to raise children, work without receiving child support after being abandoned. The real problem is the lack of holding men accountable in general.

The amount of single mothers not receiving child support and the lack of criminal prosecution for violating child support orders is staggering. However, if a man does a good job raising their children, pays their support on time (usually court ordered because they can’t just do the right thing) men respond as if they deserve a trophy, usually a younger wife. Raising awareness of this societal problem needs to be discussed and Beyonce’s letter is a start.

Most conservatives who argue about political stories, defend the actions of men on the Congressional floor like Ted Cruz, Paul Ryan and Louie Gohmert, not to mention the governors of red states all over the country. Pundits and radio show hosts like Rush Limbaugh and Glenn Beck have been critical for days on end, screaming in a room by themselves about Sandra Fluke, Wendy Davis, Planned Parenthood, and encouraging child labor. They blame woman in order to hide their own transgressions.

Elizabeth Warren, ball and chainWomen like Elizabeth Warren and Wendy Davis have fought the old boys club and are succeeding, but the work is not done. All women need to get more involved in the political process, whether it be activism, voting, or running for office. It is so sad that there are so few women who have a voice, and are rarely seen standing up for the rights of men and women alike, typically because they are busy working and raising children, even if they have spouses.

My hope is that the next president is a woman. Having the first black President elected twice, has divided the country to pre-civil rights era levels. This is the price we pay as citizens for progress thanks to the ball and chain white men of the country. White men fear losing their dominance, and the fact that this fear has stonewalled all real progress is obvious.

Strides are being made but not without a sacrifice, painful as it is. Women make up more than 50% of the population, which means the vitriol will continue. Women, brace yourselves. These ball and chain men are going to be out numbered and true progress will prevail. The real hope and change our country needs.

Hi everyone! I am a prior litigation paralegal and graduate of the UCLA paralegal program. My undergraduate studies were at University of Nevada, Las Vegas majoring in Sociology and minoring in Business. Adding law heightened my analytical skills of legal issues, social issues and I worked on several high profile class action cases against BMW; Microsoft; General Motors; 24 Hour Fitness; Airborne vitamin supplement and several other class action cases that were litigated U.S. Federal Courts. I love writing about political and consumer protection issues and proud to be a contributor for Quietmike.org.


  1. Women claim that it is a feminine hand that rocks the cradle. It has often been said that behind every successful man there is a woman. women want to take credit for every successful thing a man does. but how about taking the blame for all the bad things men do. I have read studies that claim single moms are raising children better than households that have a father as well as a mother. How can this be true when
    Michelle Simmons the author of the blog above has claimed that men are Real Ball and Chain. Apparently since it is women that have a greater influence on raising children aught to reexamine how they are raising their boy child that they have turned out to be the new ball and chain.women and especially you Michelle Simmons need to take responsibility for the poor way you are raising your boy child since they are turning out so badly.

    • I don’t know how your comment is relevant. I never mentioned if I had children or not. Either way, I do have a son who I did raise as a single parent. I received spotty child support and my son has completed college and is a firefighter and paramedic in California. If you think I did a lousy job, don’t call 911 when your house is on fire, or you or a loved on has an emergency or there a another terrorist attack. Anything else you want to attack me about?

      • Apparently I hit a nerve. Problem is Mechelle has no empathy women claim they have a lock on. She hasn’t taken into consideration how men will react to her tirade about males not being held accountable. Michelle when you tear down the male gender you should expect some blow back.did you tell your readers that 72% of all divorces are initiated by women who then complain that men are not supporting them. the reason there is so many single mothers is because women want children but not the dads that go with them.

        As soon as these women have some difficulty in a marriage they call a lawyer who encourages them to get a divorce because she will get the kids, the house, the best car in the family, and the government will step in with a multitude of aids to take the place of the fathers. than our boys are being criticized by women but guess who raised these boys women seem to hate.Maybe women aren’t doing a very good job at raising boys. Maybe they need the dads after all to serve as role models.

        Women will not catch up with men in leadership until they stop bragging about how superior they are.Why? Because no one male or female will promote some one superior to themselves for fear of loosing their leadership position to the superior person they promoted. women talk about wanting parity with males but when men help them women go ahead of males and then women stop talking about parity and then proceed to claim they want parity in another field they are behind in hoping men are so stupid they won’t catch on to the fact that women think they are superior and don’t really want parity with males. Well here is one male that has caught on to women’s schemes and alerting my fellow men to stop helping women.without male help women will remain behind.

        when women like male hating Michelle finally realize that they have to say some positive things about males instead of all negative stuff before men will want to help women. Keep treating males as if we are the enemy and we will treat you like women are the enemy. You want a war between the genders and you will find men won’t be the easy push over you imagine. We have seen this movie before. There is evidence that the earliest civilizations were matriarchies. Why aren’t they around today? quite likely they didn’t treat their males very well. Too many Michelles around spitting out their poisonous venom towards men. then we over through the female Goddesses. It happened once and we can do it again. A little warning here sister. Don’t call men the new ball and chain because if you do we are likely to wrap that ball and chain around you. A word to the wise cool it on this male ball and chain stuff.If you thought you were going to help anything with your tirade aganist men you failed.

        Warm regards
        Alpha Male.

  2. Yet you omit women such as Michelle Bachman and Sarah Palin as well as Dame Maggie Thatcher. There are many, perhaps not as many as their male counterparts, dead beat Moms who fail to pay court ordered alimony. And let’s not forget Dr Laura and her female counterparts on talk radio.

    It’s easy to blame men for a lack of progress. But it is simplistic and perhaps a bit unrealistic. There is simply no evidence that if the tables were turned women would be any more enlightened than their male counterparts.

    And frankly, some of us white, straight men evolved on equal rights for all Americans decades ago, have opposed Rush Limbaugh since the 80s, and have made sacrifices in our professional lives to support our spouses and raise our children.

    • Progressive men are given credit in the article but clearly, both sexes aren’t doing enough. Just look at some statistics of the amount of female elected officials and start there…then fact check the other things mentioned and you will learn that it is men who have stalled progress in this country for years and years. Maybe check out an episode of Mad Men.

    • and you white men are SO BRAVE … leaving anonymous comments!

      no doubt in the world — there are women who are as hypocritical, lying, selfish, and criminal as men. the big difference is, proportionately they are fewer.

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